• It’s still abuse if your abuser had good days
• It’s still abuse if your abuser told you they loved you
• It’s still abuse if they apologised after abusing you/tried to justify it in any way
• It’s still abuse if your abuser was abused themselves
• It’s still abuse if your abuser suffered from a mental illness
• It’s still abuse if you have good memories with your abuser- if they took you on vacation, bought you gifts or gave you hugs
• It’s still abuse even if your abuser will never see it as abuse
• It’s still abuse even if it wasn’t physical
• It’s still abuse if there was physical abuse but not too hard for it to leave marks on your body
• It’s still abuse if your abuser is your parent and they were ‘trying to do their best’
• It’s still abuse if your relationship with your abuser was healthy and beautiful for a few years
• It’s still abuse if you had a good childhood and it started during your teenage years

Abuse comes in all shapes and sizes, from anyone- a parent, a partner, a friend, a classmate.

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